Is it Possible to Forgive a Sexual Affair
Did your husband have a marital affair? The pain is unbearable after your husband stepped out on you. Mine did too. You know how devastated you felt after finding out your husband was cheating on you. Discovering your relationship has just come crumbling down overwhelms you. After your wall of rage and tears has passed, leaving you with a hole in your heart, the question
looms: What do you do next?
I was surprised to learn that
almost 77% of women whose husband has
had a marital affair were married for just less than 11 years! Perhaps, you probably
figured the longer a marriage, the less likely your
husband would be to have an affair.
How does this affair affect you?
Surviving Infidelity is very difficult - Will you ever Recover
Your mind might be filled with
unrelenting images of your husband in his
affair. Over and over you envision the two of them in your head. It is like a bad slideshow that goes on forever. As you know, when all you can think about is his affair, the more angry you can become. For you, rage builds up or your tears flow with no end in sight. Or even worse, you’re feeling worthless and insecure. You blame yourself. Your lack of trust in EVERYTHING he says or does increases the tremendous weight you’re carrying.
* Can you fix the damage?
* Is your husband lying to you when your husband promises it’s through?
* Do you believe he's only going out for a drink with the boys?
If you know you will always love him and you feel inside you want to forgive him, you can save your marriage. And discover how to trust again without fear or blame. So, be proud of your long lasting marriage. Be happy with yourself for being together with him for all these years.
You should focus on things YOU can improve. Couples counseling doesn’t necessarily work as your spouse may decide not to go. Find a program designed for you to recover from his marital affair. Remember, keep alive hope for the future.